Wedding trends, just like clothing fashions, tend to swing from one extreme to another. They’re happening and hip one month, and the next, they’re old news. And these days, trendy is a loaded word. Some couples see the word “trendy” and they are there. (“I mean, what wedding doesn’t need more mason jars and burlap?”) Others run screaming the other direction from anything that looks remotely mainstream. (“I wanted a 1920’s wedding before Great Gatsby came out.”)
I would like to make an argument that will fly in the face of every wedding style blog out there.
TRENDS DO NOT MATTER. Or at least, they don’t have to.
Here is my suggestion to you, as a wedding professional and as a recent bride:
Learn to know what you really like.
Sounds easy, right? Well, here’s the catch. The whole idea of “trends” flies in the face of doing what you want to do, whether you’re trying to create a trendy wedding or avoid having an overly trendy wedding. Whether you’re following the crowd or desperately trying to stand out, you’re letting them define you. And your wedding day is all about the two of YOU.
Use trends for inspiration if you want, but learn to know what you like and why you like it. If that happens to be trendy, that’s fine! If it’s something the world has never seen before, that’s fine too!
Here are some questions to help you evaluate wedding trends to see if they deserve a place in your wedding.
- What significance does this trend have to us as a couple?
- What is it that attracts me to this trend?
- Do I find it aesthetically pleasing?
- Am I avoiding this trend just because I’ve seen it done before?
- How could we put a twist on this trend to make it our own?
- Is this trend practical? Does it help make the day more enjoyable for ourselves and our guests?
- Do I really want this trend in my wedding, or do I just feel like it’s the thing to do?
Now, let’s hear from you! What wedding trend would you like to see in your big day… and which wouldn’t you touch with a ten-foot pole? Leave your best answers in the comments below.